Has something negative happened recently or, perhaps not so recently, that is weighing heavily on your heart? These cards speak to recovery from that kind of event. They remind us that:
1. All things happen for a reason. And all the events in our lives, even the negative ones (maybe especially the negative ones) help to make us who we are today.
2. If we keep focusing on and thinking about negative events and the people who have hurt us, we reexperience those events, essentially re-traumatizing ourselves. We don’t need that. We need to instead let go of negativity and move forward to experience happiness and love.
3. Although we need to let go of past hurtful experiences, it is incredibly hard to do so. They have a compelling hold on our psyches, having taken up residence in our amygdalas, in some cases, it seems, for good! Some negative events create serious phobias that end up being lifelong, or cause an ongoing problem with anxiety and panic attacks. Again, we don’t need this — but it is hard to prevent.
4. Luckily, help is available. Of course, one form of help is counseling and therapy — and this could mean professional help from a licensed therapist, or informal help from our support network of friends and family. However, sometimes spiritual help can be a bit more potent and can be a strong add-on to the other support we are availing ourselves of. The Lilac Mist card reminds us that we always have angels and spirit guides around us. These guides are eager to help and are constantly radiating unconditional love. It may seem old-fashioned to pray for help, but prayer has existed since ancient times precisely because it is a powerful tool. Moreover, though we could argue about whether or not it is appropriate to pray for assistance with material and physical matters (such as financial problems or medical healing), letting go of negative attachments is not a material or physical matter, but a spiritual one. There could not be any more appropriate topic for prayer!
The Universal Wisdom deck book suggests that we ask the angels to cut the etheric cords that still connect us with those people who have hurt us. I don’t believe this card refers to our loved ones who occasionally hurt our feelings without meaning to, and who we naturally forgive with an open heart, even when something serious happens. I think this statement refers to those people who WILLFULLY hurt us and others, who will NEVER stop behaving in a negative way toward us, who hurt us ON PURPOSE, and whose actions toward us have to be stopped for good by ending the connection. Some of us feel strongly called to pray for those who have hurt us, in the hopes that those people will develop and mature into more responsible individuals capable of making better future choices. But, if keeping these people in our prayers ends up being a way of retraumatizing ourselves by reliving those bad memories, one option is to ask the angels and spirit guides to take on the job of praying for them, so that we ourselves can simply let go of the connection and move on with our lives.
Do you see why this question of whether and how to end negative attachments is a spiritual one? It isn’t particularly spiritually advanced to just slam the door on people who bother us in some way, even when those people hurt us. It’s better than letting those people roll right over us, of course, but not by much! A more spiritual response is to work with those people and help them onto a better path. However — there are times when we have to recognize that the situation is beyond our current level of skill to heal. And at such a time, placing the matter in the hands of someone as spiritually advanced as an angel or a buddha is a graceful way of shutting the door without pushing that person (the person who insists on continually trying to harm us) further into negativity.